Between long hours at work, running kids from here to there, and your own personal errands, it can be hard to find quality time together with your partner.
Unfortunately, most people’s schedules are busier than ever. While it can make you feel productive at the end of the day, you could also be ignoring your relationship.
It’s important to make your partner, and your relationship, a priority in your life. If you haven’t been, it doesn’t mean you’ve purposefully ignored either one. But, life has a way of distracting you from things that are most important.
Here’s how you can value quality time together with the person you love when neither of you has a lot of it to spare.
Develop Routines Together
Do you find yourself rushing out the door each morning with a coffee in hand, just trying to get to work on time? When you get home, are you glued to your phone? Are you binge-watching your favorite show to unwind? Or, are you focused solely on the kids?
All of those situations are normal, but they can cause a disconnect in your relationship. One way to combat them without having to change your busy schedule is to develop routines with your partner.
Try getting up a bit earlier each morning and spend 10-15 minutes having a cup of coffee with them. Or, make a healthy breakfast together for the whole family.
In the evening, wash the dishes together after dinner. Or, spend 30 minutes before bed focused solely on each other so you can talk about your days. Don’t let things like your phone or other electronics get in the way.
Developing these simple daily routines can help you to stay connected, without having to give up a lot of extra time. Instead, you’re prioritizing the time you already have.
Carve Out Time
If you want to spend more quality time together, there’s always the option to take the time to do it! Even if you only have 20 minutes on a Wednesday evening, carve out that time to spend with your partner and nothing else.
Plan to go on a walk together around the neighborhood. Or, find more time to spend with them, and have a weekly date night.
Once you decide to dedicate a certain time to your partner, leave that time strictly for them. It shows them that your relationship is a priority in your life, even though you’re busy.
Things might come up with work, kids, etc., and you might need to adjust the day/time you do something with your partner. But, don’t let it fall away completely. When you make a commitment to setting aside time, it needs to happen consistently.
Make the Most of Quality Time
Spending quality time together is essential for any relationship. If you’re busy and you don’t have a lot of time to spend with your partner, finding unique ways to let them know they’re important to you is just as essential.
Whatever time you do have with the one you love, make sure they’re getting your full attention.
You don’t always need to have a lot of time to spare. Just make sure in the time you do have, your focus is on your partner. When you both feel like you’re really connecting, even in the limited time you have, it can go a long way in keeping the relationship strong.
Whether you’re struggling to feel that connection or you just don’t know how you can find more quality time together due to your busy schedules, feel free to contact me.
If you’re in the East Bay area, I’m happy to work with you and your partner to find more ways you can value quality time together, and remain as connected as possible.
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