You’ve probably already started thinking about the holidays, which means Thanksgiving and Christmas are right around the corner. But, it’s never too early to start thinking about the new year and what it could bring.
People set resolutions all the time whenever a new year rolls around. So, this year, why not choose to set relationship goals with your partner?
When you set relationship goals, you’re committing to working toward them for a better relationship, all around. Goals can fun to work on together and individually.
So, how can you set relationship goals as a couple next year? Let’s look at some fun ideas you can resolve to work toward in the new year.
Keep Trying New Things
Whether you’ve been together for nine months or nine years, it’s never a bad idea to try new things together. Trying something new as a couple can help to keep your relationship fresh. It will help you grow together, as well.
You can be spontaneous with your adventures, or resolve to do something new together once a month, then schedule out time to do it. It can be fun to come up with new, exciting ideas to try. Plus, when you’re both learning something at the same time, you can rely on each other. Try something like learning a language or taking a cooking class.
Schedule a Date Night
In addition to trying new things as a couple, it’s also a good idea to schedule some more routine time together. Weekly date nights are a great way to do that, especially if you have busy schedules.
Date nights don’t have to be anything over-the-top or fancy. It’s about carving out the time for yourself, your partner, and your relationship.
Try Your Partner’s Hobby
Does your partner have a hobby they’re passionate about? Maybe they’re really into gardening, or they have an incredible record collection. Resolve to get into one of their hobbies next year.
It doesn’t need to become your favorite thing, but trying one of their hobbies will show them that you’re interested in the things they enjoy. Naturally, it will bring you closer together.
Become Better Fighters
No, I don’t mean putting on a pair of boxing gloves. Let’s face it, though; every couple argues. Every couple has disagreements. Your arguments can bring you closer together if you choose to “fight” the right way.
Your arguments should be based on communication and listening. They shouldn’t be attacks against your partner. Always remember that you’re on the same team, and you have the same goal.
If you resolve to argue more productively with each other, you might find your disagreements don’t feel as massive next year.
Do More Little Things
It’s the little, daily, routine things in a relationship that make it work. Try doing more of them next year.
Include a note in your partner’s lunch, or send them a mid-day text message letting them know you love them. Before you leave for work in the morning, make them a cup of coffee. Thousands of little gestures communicate to your partner that you care. And they can add up quickly.
Let Go of What Doesn’t Matter
The little things can make a relationship, and yet, they can also break a relationship if you’re not careful.
Little things that bother you will occur throughout your relationship. Maybe your partner leaves the toilet seat up or leaves crumbs on the table after they eat their breakfast.
It’s a good idea to discuss these things and move on. Address them at face value, and then let them go if they don’t genuinely matter. Don’t hold grudges. Don’t hold onto little things that bother you.
Choose to Be Positive
A little positivity can go a long way in a relationship. But, being positive is a choice. It’s not always an easy one to make, but it’s an important one.
Being positive doesn’t mean you’ll be happy all the time or that “bad” things won’t happen. It means you’ll choose to respond to challenging situations in your relationship differently, and with a positive attitude.
You might be surprised at how easy it is to set relationship goals, and it can be something fun to do together as a couple!
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